When did you realize you were a lesbian? At what age did you tell your family? Ever have a boyfriend? -Anonymous

I don’t believe there was ever a defining moment that I realized I was a lesbian. It is more of an enfoldment through this journey of revealing who I am entirely. Who I choose to love is simply part of knowing and accepting myself. There have been moments when I realized I had to define my sexuality in order to have the type of relationship I wanted and good communication with the people in my life. Since the age of 8 there were subtle signs of my interest in girls. My 3rd and last boyfriend officially ended around age 21. By the end of it we treated each other like friends and still maintain a platonic friendship now. Looking back, I grew up with a strong desire to fit in and be liked. Having a boyfriend was part of the persona I built, but it wasn’t fulfilling for me. I was 24 when I came out to my family and had introduced them to my 2nd girlfriend. Less than a month ago I came out to my father and introduced him to my 3rd girlfriend and now ex. I’m really an open book so it didn’t come as a surprise to any of the people in my life that this was my sexual preference. In fact, I was the shocked one. I didn’t think anyone would keep their suspicions to themselves for so long!

Even now, being a lesbian and single is a new stage in my life. I’ve never been part of the dating scene and am honestly not looking forward to it. However, it’s an adventure necessary for my growth.

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